Get Real

BY:  Talysa McManus


BIBLE TEXT:  “Go and get your husband,” Jesus told her.  “I don’t have a husband,” the woman replied. Jesus said, “You’re right! You don’t have a husband— for you have had five husbands, and you aren’t even married to the man you’re living with now. You certainly spoke the truth!”  -John 4:16-18

PERSONAL REFLECTION: In this passage we see that Jesus obviously already knew of this woman’s colorful past and her living arrangements at the time.  So why ask her to go and get a husband that He knew she did not have?  He could have simply made her aware of all that He knew about her — the fact that she had been married 5 times and was not married to the man she was currently living with. This knowledge of her life alone would have had the same powerful effect on her and probably the same end result of her belief. But Jesus knew that it wasn’t enough for Him to speak the truth…He knew that she needed to speak it herself.  He knew that unless she could see the truth about her life, and the shackles of shame and guilt that had her sitting at a well during the hottest part of the day, she would never know what it felt like to feel them falling away. He knew the power confession would have on her life. The change that happens when transparency takes root and we find ourselves knee deep in surrender. When we reach the end of ourselves and realize our need for His power in our lives. He knew the truth would set her free.

PERSONAL APPLICATION: Although I have never found myself midday at a well, avoiding the crowds and their judgments, I have found myself trying desperately to hide the tarnished reality of the not so pretty me, in an attempt to present the world with the shiny, perfect, I’ve got it all together version. Convinced that if they really knew the mistakes I have made, the depths of the pit from which He saved me, or the mistakes that I make daily in my walk as a believer, surely they would want nothing to do with me. This sort of pretending only left me dry and thirsty, hunched over a spiritual well with no bucket…only the weight of shame and guilt. Just like the Samaritan woman.

This pretending also robbed my Redeemer of the glory He is so worthy of. Only when I embrace the tarnished vessel that I am, completely surrender the whole mess, and allow His love, grace, and mercy to “polish me up” can the world see my desperate need for Him and His story of Redemption unfolding in my life.

PRAYER: Lord, I thank you so much for the love you so freely and willingly lavish on me every day. For your mercies that meet me new each morning. For your grace that is enough. Thank you for never being satisfied until you have all of me. The good, the bad, and the “oh, so ugly”.  You see the real me and yet you still love and want the whole ugly thing. I will never fully understand it, but I will spend every day I am given trying to say thank you.


Talysa is a thirtysomething Jesus loving, husband adoring, Worship leading, photography attempting, coffee guzzling, kid doting and toting, Homeschool thriving, wife and mom. She has an obsession with italics, could eat her weight in Nutella, and still gets butterflies when her husband holds her hand. She and her family have been at Life Assembly since May 2011. You can find her getting real about life on a regular basis at


1 Comment

  1. by Giovanna

    On October 8, 2011

    This really spoke to me. Thank you for taking the time to write. It’s a blessing.

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